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Thought your dating days were over?
The dating scene is not just for the young. Adults past fifty have more spending power and some are blessed with more leisure time than their
younger counterparts. With the children firmly flown from the nest, older singletons are travelling, day tripping and dating - and they’re doing it their
own way.
Finding a mate or date for the over 50’s may be different than searching for a partner in the student unions and disco’s of
your youth. Pressing up against a sweaty body in a nightclub may not be particularly fun anymore! Following are a few helpful
tips to get you back in the swing of things without appearing like an Ab Fab reject or embarrassing your
grandkids when they see you after hours.
Moving on
If you have just ended a long term relationship or recently had a spouse or partner pass on, you will have to get yourself in the right state of mind
before re-entering the dating scene. If possible, remove all objects in your home that remind you of your loss. Pack away photographs rather than have them on
display. Sentimental reminders may trigger an emotional response and will keep you from moving on.
Giving old clothes and trinkets to charity can be cathartic, knowing that someone else will benefit from them. The bedroom may be one of the biggest reminders of a past
relationship, so giving it a new look or a spring clean will do wonders for your outlook on dating.
These steps may sound obvious but the reasons behind them are to give you clarity and closure as you step
into the future.
The dating game
Know what you want at the outset. Do you want a long-term relationship or friendship? Do you want a move-in lover or a bit of fun
and hand holding?
Once you have done the practical work of spiritual cleansing and knowing what it is you want, you are ready to get out there and meet
that special person.
Meeting and getting to know new people is never easy. Let friends know that you are looking to date,
because word of mouth carries a lot of weight and security. Most people meet through mutual friends at
parties or dinner dates. So put the word out there discreetly and be prepared to venture into the
exciting world of blind dating. Let your hobby be your guide or pick up a new one! Evening classes
or groups built around a common interest are great ways to meet like-minded adults. Fitness groups,
including running clubs are brilliant for your social outlook and physical well-being.
Join a dating agency. If your luck has dried up through the usual channels, maybe it is time to get
help from a professional. There are probably as many dating agencies as there are singles so you will not
be hard pressed to find one that will suit your particular situation.
Please note that agencies which demand high fees will not always guarantee that you get the results you want. You must shop around
and then read the fine print. According to a report by Telewest Broadband, ‘silver surfers’ are using the web to connect to old friends
and meet new people, including 7% that admitted to using the ‘net to find a love match. Here are some example websites:
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